That is right my friends, my first activity on the list is speed dating! A local "specialty" shop has speed dating nights, so (with some encouragement)I called and signed up. The lovely girl on the phone informs me that it is a good thing I called early, my age group fills up. "Yay" I says to myself in my head, this will be great.... ummmm.... then she informs me that there are currently 3 members of the opposite gender signed up... Hmmm. Well, can't put all my eggs in one bucket. It is a start none the less. She assured me that the boys do come, they just sign up last minute. Fair enough.
I did speed dating once, a long long time ago. I enjoyed it. I think I like it better than the online thing for two main reasons:
1, face to face contact. You can be less than honest, but it is a bit trickier. Plus you aren't using an over edited best angled photo to let me imagine what you look like.
2, The rejection process is easier. You either give them a check mark or an "x". And the facilitators give them (me) the bad news. I don't have to tell anyone "I am just not that interested".
Those who know me know that I excel at small talk and chit chat. I can be "on" very easily. I do it all day at work. I am not nervous about that. I am comfortable with the cold chat. I am nervous about the whole experience of course, but I am comfortable with the idea. I am actually kind of nervous that I will enjoy it. Then do I become a serial speed dater? In this city I don't think there are many chances for that.
I had more thoughts on my long drive home from work - but they are gone now. So I will leave with this - in ten days I will have at least one story to tell. Adventures in speed dating! And no, I can't take pictures/videos/bring a friend, but I will tell you all about it!
Monday, April 22, 2013
Here we go again!
Well folks, it is time to take another kick at the can - time to get back into the dating game. It took a bit of time to get into the proper frame of mind to launch back into it, but I am ready to go. So wish me luck! I have a couple of fun activities lined up already and I am excited for more.
The current fun activity is getting the profiles ready to launch. Not only do I need nice pictures - hint hint sister - but I need an awesome write up. It is hard to come across as witty and laid back without sounding like a dork. PLUS we all know everyonelies exaggerates on their profiles. Here's what I've got:
I make a mean cabbage roll, have moderately decent skills at Halo, enjoy playing board games, wish unicorns were real, collect playmobil (it is for the nieces and nephews I swear) and watch reality tv.
I enjoy playing games (of the video and board variety, wink wink!). I do yoga (cough/sometimes/cough). I am a good cook (especially when it comes from a box), I love tv and movies - what kind? all of them! I like music and books....
Okay, let's break it down:
Hobbies - Board games (can't take the geek out of that statement, at least geekiness is in fashion), Halo/video games (again, good thing geek is in!), quilting (hmmm, I don't think I would put that at the top of my list). Cooking (I am a good cook, and I DO make a mean cabbage roll and borscht - lucky for me there are a lot of prairie boys who can appreciate that). Reading (is that considered a hobby? I do it a lot)
Entertainment - here is where everyone edits the truth. If I believed everything I read online, no one would watch TV/movies. Now I do enjoy some good tv (and awful tv too). And yes I do have a PVR full of shows - a lot of guilty pleasures. BUT I don't just sit in my jammies watching reality tv all day... (Big brother is currently on my TV and I am wearing sweats). Fact is, I like TV. I enjoy a break from reality. I do not let it rule my life, the magic of the PVR allows me to live a life AND get my fill of mindless crap. Do I enjoy going out? Sometimes, depends on where I am going. I do enjoy live music and theatre. I like to (poorly) play minigolf or go bowling. Heck, I am really up to trying things at least once. Thing is, as much as I am cool to go out and DO things, I am also content to sometimes just stay at home and chill. There are many things off my hobby list that I have fun doing.
Values - Family and friends (everyone says that of course). Feeling successful and having pride in what I do is important to me, and I would hope that the person I am with has a similar sense of that. Money is a consideration but it is not my focus. I'd be lying if I said I didn't care about what someone does/how much they make. I am not talking that I need to be with a doctor or a lawyer, I just don't want a bum on social assistance, or a dead beat who dodges creditors, or some dude who lives in a box. But the almighty dollar does not strongly dictate who I would be with.
The tricky part is how to phrase any of it without sounding like a sloth who never sees the light of day. Or a superficial bitch. Or a loser. Ah the fun of online dating - you get a small, flat profile in which someone will judge your merits. Maybe I should just hire a matchmaker, someone to do the hard work for me.
The current fun activity is getting the profiles ready to launch. Not only do I need nice pictures - hint hint sister - but I need an awesome write up. It is hard to come across as witty and laid back without sounding like a dork. PLUS we all know everyone
Okay, let's break it down:
Hobbies - Board games (can't take the geek out of that statement, at least geekiness is in fashion), Halo/video games (again, good thing geek is in!), quilting (hmmm, I don't think I would put that at the top of my list). Cooking (I am a good cook, and I DO make a mean cabbage roll and borscht - lucky for me there are a lot of prairie boys who can appreciate that). Reading (is that considered a hobby? I do it a lot)
Entertainment - here is where everyone edits the truth. If I believed everything I read online, no one would watch TV/movies. Now I do enjoy some good tv (and awful tv too). And yes I do have a PVR full of shows - a lot of guilty pleasures. BUT I don't just sit in my jammies watching reality tv all day... (Big brother is currently on my TV and I am wearing sweats). Fact is, I like TV. I enjoy a break from reality. I do not let it rule my life, the magic of the PVR allows me to live a life AND get my fill of mindless crap. Do I enjoy going out? Sometimes, depends on where I am going. I do enjoy live music and theatre. I like to (poorly) play minigolf or go bowling. Heck, I am really up to trying things at least once. Thing is, as much as I am cool to go out and DO things, I am also content to sometimes just stay at home and chill. There are many things off my hobby list that I have fun doing.
Values - Family and friends (everyone says that of course). Feeling successful and having pride in what I do is important to me, and I would hope that the person I am with has a similar sense of that. Money is a consideration but it is not my focus. I'd be lying if I said I didn't care about what someone does/how much they make. I am not talking that I need to be with a doctor or a lawyer, I just don't want a bum on social assistance, or a dead beat who dodges creditors, or some dude who lives in a box. But the almighty dollar does not strongly dictate who I would be with.
The tricky part is how to phrase any of it without sounding like a sloth who never sees the light of day. Or a superficial bitch. Or a loser. Ah the fun of online dating - you get a small, flat profile in which someone will judge your merits. Maybe I should just hire a matchmaker, someone to do the hard work for me.
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